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PostPosted: 14-06-2014 03:47    Post subject: Reply with quote

It depends on how accepting you think she might be. When my husband's niece died I tried to give my sister in law the message that her daughter wanted her to know how much she had loved her although in life she had seemed to be closer to her father.
She did not take it well and was quite hostile for quite a long time and only by including her in any of our family things has she at last melted quite a bit.
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PostPosted: 14-06-2014 09:28    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes, not everybody wants to hear such a 'message'.

My own Mum believes in the Invisible Sky Fairy, but if someone gave her a message from the recently deceased, she would simply refuse to hear it.
Part of her belief includes not communicating with the dead - I seem to recall her quoting some scripture at me to that effect. This is the big reason why she doesn't trust Spiritualists or the Spiritualist Church.
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PostPosted: 30-08-2014 22:39    Post subject: Reply with quote

My parents' much-loved dog died almost two years ago. He died very suddenly after being taken ill overnight. I used to walk him several times a week and was heart-broken to lose him - especially when he wasn't particularly old and seemed to be full of life the day before it happened.

The other night I dreamed I was standing outside their house gate and the dog was running up and down outside, gleefully ignoring my calls (as he used to do). He went to the bottom of their road and was having fun with another dog that was being walked past. A neighbour came out of his house with some other people. I asked him if he could see my parents' old dog running around. He looked at me oddly and replied that there was no dog there. But I could see him clearly.
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PostPosted: 30-08-2014 23:09    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread has reminded me of a dream I had last night. It was very brief, but quite clear.

I got on a bus and went up to the top deck. Seated at the front on the right was an old man, quite small and frail, and for some reason I felt he shouldn't be there.

I put my hand on his shoulder, and he slumped over, clearly dead!

And that was it! I've been on several buses today, but never on the top deck. In fact, I wonder if that's what the dream was about - I don't go upstairs now on the buses because it's too much hassle with my shopping trolley, so perhaps the dead man was a representation of my 'upstairs self'.... And yet physically he was nothing like me...

Next time I'm on a double-decker, I'll leave my trolley in the luggage area, and go upstairs to see what transpires.... Shocked
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PostPosted: 31-08-2014 09:04    Post subject: Reply with quote

I once had a very vivid dream that my brother was dead. I phoned him up to 4am to check that he was OK as I was in a panic. He nearly poo'd his pants driving to work that morning and drove very carefully.
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PostPosted: 31-08-2014 09:22    Post subject: Reply with quote

Edited to clarify that I'm replying to Rynner's post about going upstairs on the bus and not the following one about pooing pants! Laughing


Yup, I'd do that. Very Happy

The dream theory which appeals most to me is that all one's dreams are about oneself. I'd certainly agree with your idea that the dead man upstairs on the bus could be a version of yourself.

Might even go so far as to remind you that the subconsious is capable of sending us quite brutal messages wrapped up in imagery to make them more acceptable.

For a person who lives where there're few or no stairs to negotiate, those steep bus steps could take quite an effort.

So perhaps you're being reminded that the effort of climbing those stairs might one day be too much for you! Shocked

That's my interpretation. Probably irrelevant to you of course. Wink

I watched an episode of Six Feet Under last night, where Claire is shown meeting up with various deceased people, including some whom she was surprised to see.
One said 'Oh! Tell me you're just visiting!' and was relieved that Claire had not also died.

This series often has dreams and visions of the dead. They are not really the dead people themselves, but rather part of the living characters' internal dialogues.
The living characters do not generally mention these experiences because they understand that outside the dream context they are meaningless; the deceased person is dead and cannot have anything new to say.

Of course, the main characters are in the funeral business and so have an ongoing relationship with death, at least other people's, and are comfortable with it.
Whereas we might have a similar dream of our deceased father, say, and find it meaningful to us and want to discuss it. Hence this thread. Wink


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PostPosted: 31-08-2014 09:44    Post subject: Reply with quote

escargot1 wrote:
The dream theory which appeals most to me is that all one's dreams are about oneself. I'd certainly agree with your idea that the dead man upstairs on the bus could be a version of yourself.

Might even go so far as to remind you that the subconsious is capable of sending us quite brutal messages wrapped up in imagery to make them more acceptable.

For a person who lives where there're few or no stairs to negotiate, those steep bus steps could take quite an effort.

So perhaps you're being reminded that the effort of climbing those stairs might one day be too much for you! Shocked

Yes, I thought of that too! Sad

But there are worse ways to go, and it would make a change for me to inconvenience First, rather than the other way round! Twisted Evil
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