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Posted: 07-08-2013 17:27 Post subject:

One of the more weird things to have happened to me, I'm still putting it down as pure coincidence, but I can see how someone with a different belief system might interpret it...

So, me and my wife-to-be were over in Scotland for the weekend finalising last minute plans and enjoying the Highland Games in the village my family are from. Because our wedding is in September my Mum didn't come up for her usual August holiday but is going up for 2 weeks in September. This is the first time in my life that she hasn't been up for the Games, I've not missed them in 32/33 years - not entirely sure if I first went aged 1 or 2.

Consequently it was a bit of a different feeling weekend, plus my Uncle was in hospital for surgery so he was not about, so maybe thoughts of family were higher in my sub-conscious.

Anyhow, we had gone out for an Indian on the Saturday night and in the restaurant was a woman who, without my glasses on, was the absolute spit of my Mum - same mannerisms, dress sense, everything. We laughed about it but thought no more of it. With my glasses on she didn't actually look that much like her.

Our waiter came over, tall Indian man, late 50s, Indian accent but with a slight Scottish twang. I don't even recall what he said but just the tone and way he delivered on sentence reminded me exactly of how my Dad spoke. He died in 2005 and we never really had much of a relationship so I rarely, if ever, talk of him to my partner and it is not often he even comes into my mind - there was no bad blood, he was just disinterested and I was unperturbed by his indifference. In this instance though I said to her: "Even though he is Indian that waiter speaks just like my Dad used to..."

A few minutes passed and he had forgotten to bring us our poppadoms, eventually he came over placed them down and apologised for forgetting, then he paused and turned back and said "I'm just getting old..."

At this point my partner says my face went white as a sheet and as he walked away I explained to her that those were the exact last words my Dad ever said to me. He had not been feeling great in the days before he suffered a massive heart attack and on the Saturday I'd dropped him off at the pub, as he struggled to get out the car he made light of his difficulty and said: "I'm just getting old..."

For me, just a very odd coincidence. Had the waiter not spoken in a voice that just suddenly caught me as being that of my Dad I'd not even have registered the words. Strangely, the rest of the evening the waiter sounded like an Indian man. It just seemed to be that one instance where his words came out in the voice of my Dad - as if to bring him into my thoughts - and then the immediate punch of the same words.

Very odd, and I remain unconvinced it is anything more than coincidence. But I'll admit it took me a while to get to sleep that night wondering if I had just been visited with a pre-wedding message.

I've always joked that it'd be the ultimate irony to get more interaction out of him from the other side than I ever did in real life... Laughing

Posted: 07-08-2013 20:39 Post subject:

Posted: 08-08-2013 15:00 Post subject:

I'm still shocked someone bothered to have a party to celebrate a kitchen fitting. That's just weird.

Posted: 08-08-2013 16:06 Post subject:

Posted: 09-08-2013 11:56 Post subject:

Fantastic coincidence McAvennie, I love it when things like that come together.

Posted: 09-08-2013 12:26 Post subject:

Yup, I like that McAvennie one, rings bells with me. People seeming to speak like the dead crop up now and then.

A few years ago, out with my dogs, I heard someone greet them in a certain silly way. Only one person used to say that to them and he'd recently died. It stopped me in my tracks. Shocked

One of my university friends had a close pal who was murdered. (It was quite a famous case which happened before I met her, so I can remember racking my brains for the details, ooer.)

Some time later, she was out with some mates who'd also known the dead girl, and went to order drinks. The barmaid turned to her and suggested, in what my friend said was the dead woman's voice, that she have the very cocktail that they'd all usually drunk on their nights out.

My friend was shocked but the barmaid didn't miss a beat and carried on polishing glasses or whatever she was doing.

Posted: 10-08-2013 22:46 Post subject:

Just now, Techy jokingly quoted the film The Lost Boys, saying 'You're a goddam shit-sucking vampire!'

I then flipped a few TV channels and stopped at that film, which we hadn't known was on, and it was about a minute before those very words were spoken. Laughing